Who Most Likely Walk into a Sociopath’s Trap?

Are you a victim of a sociopath or narcissist? There is a widespread rumor on the internet that a sociopath and narcissist can attract anyone. In my opinion, this is not true.


According to my research and experience, victims of a sociopath or a narcissist most likely have the following personality traits:

  • They are often very sensitive and empathic people.
  • They are almost always very clever and educated people, often highly qualified professionals.
  • They feel a deep yearning for something that is missing in their lives.
  • They are emotional – only emotional people can be manipulated.
  • They believe that if you try hard enough, you end up feeling well – a happy ending.
  • Oftentimes they did not get the encouragement and self-affirmation they needed in their childhood.
  • They have a bad relationship with themselves, believe that they are often not good enough and suffer from shame.
  • They have a strong sense of fairness. They can say that they are right, but they always have partial responsibility for themselves.
  • They are under constant pressure of relationship breakup and loss of love, increasingly assuming full blame and responsibility for everything.
  • They feel obliged and able to carry the burden of others.
  • They are sometimes infinitely creative and, therefore, often find inexhaustible ways to make an impossible relationship possible. They always come up with something new when it comes to pushing their limits further.
  • They are flexible and ready to adapt to any kind of situations.
  • They cannot distinguish between flexibility that allows them to fit into many life situations and a pathological compromise in which they lose themselves.
  • They often need encouragement and reassurance in their personal affairs and look for it in people they do not get support from.
  • They often feel responsible for the well-being of others. They quickly feel bad when someone around them has a bad mood or “something’s off” and thinks that it could be up to them. They feel the need to cheer up, encourage and restore others.

Traces on a Frosted Window: Sociopaths and Narcissists

Seven pitfalls of toxic relationships

The heartbreakprogram: Overcome the feeling of a broken heart and heal yourself

The Six Human Needs

You need help? Call with WhatsApp 0049 177 4512080 or write birgit(at)drzottmann.com


5 thoughts on “Who Most Likely Walk into a Sociopath’s Trap?

  1. Empaths and Sociopaths are natural target too each other. the empath usually has zero boundaries and some are very codependent, or trauma bonded if you will. I run a recovery support group for survivors of sociopaths with over 11,000 members, I found your post to be very accurate, Most Doctors dont understand sociopathy and how it works or harms its victims, I wish more doctors would educate themselves so to be better at helping their victim’s. Hundreds of thousands of victims are abused by sociopaths every year, I’d say that’s at epidemic levels wouldn’t you?? Thank You for your post.

  2. Thank you for the reply. I see the victims in my practise very often but I can’t say that’s at epidemic level.
    We live in a society who sells their products often with shame. The result is often the feeling that we are not “good enough”. The sociopath can easily detect the shame and respond to it.

  3. on Facebook alone there is massive numbers of groups for victims of sociopaths, I have requirements for members to join too keep it as safe as possible and these groups have thousands of members, so many get turned away, its too easy for ex’s to make new profiles and infiltrate the group so I dont add profiles that are less than 1 year old, but I disagree its not at epidemic levels. Maybe in your practice you dont come along many victims but in reality there are hundreds of thousands of victims each year from sociopathic abuse. Its like it is taboo too discuss this type of disorder, it’s a big huge secret and I’m trying to change that. I’m tired of it being a big secret it needs to be exposed. thanks for your response.

  4. Thank you so much for your reply. You are right. We have to help the victims. They don’t talk about it because they are shamful and think that is something wrong with them. It’s also sometimes very difficult to to realise a sociopath. Good luck and thank you for your effort.

Leave a Reply